Friday, September 24, 2010

☆♥*♥☆ Relationship Needs in the Birth Chart ☆♥*♥☆

by Lorraine Valente

 Relationship Needs in the Birth Chart~Other Oriented versus Self Oriented

The astrological chart is designed like a pizza, sliced into 12 cut pieces. If we cut the pie/chart in the center from left (East) to right (West) (the reverse directions from Earth) the Ascendant/Descendant relationship axis is formed. The East is your personal needs and the West would be the needs of the relationship or partner. When the chart is divided from bottom, North, center (IC) to the top, South, center (MC) the 4th house/10th house axis of home versus work and private versus public needs is formed. Divisions of the chart hemispheres indicated above determines whether you are more “relationship” oriented or more “Self” oriented. Planets located in the Western portion of the chart are relationship and ”Other” oriented. These are the natural house signs of Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio and Sagittarius. Planets located in the Eastern hemisphere of the chart are more “Self” oriented. These natural house signs are (Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces, Aries, Taurus and Gemini). Ideally, it's best to have a balance of planets in both hemispheres as this indicates a healthy approach to relating and the natural ability to meet your own needs in love, relationships and personal growth, and also meeting your partners desires for the same.

When a majority of planets reside in the Western hemisphere, this person might not have enough self confidence to take a stand in a relationship. Co-dependency may exist when the needs of the partner take precedence over the need to take care of self, even when it may be inappropriate to care for the other. This is also called enabling, doing for another that they can do for themselves.  

An individual having a majority of planets in the Western hemisphere may feel more insecure or lack confidence in relating, always considering the other first, again, even when it is detrimental to do so. This person may become overly involved in the lives of others leaving no room left for themselves. A person could also be the one that everyone asks favors of, is taken advantage of, and who doesn’t know how to say “no” because of the need to feel needed or for ego validation.  This individual needs to learn to set healthy boundaries in all relationships.

However, if those planets are mostly in the masculine planets of fire and air, this can produce extreme impatience when the personal needs are thwarted or not immediately gratified. This person could be demanding, selfish or unrealistic about what to expect from others. For instance, a fire/air man may be extremely charming and suave yet controlling, demanding, and judgmental. He may have difficulty expressing anger in a healthy way, negatively impacting romantic relationships.

A preponderance of fixed signs in a chart, 3 or more major planets, Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius lends to imbalance when there is an inability to change and only want things their way. A balanced fixed chart has the ability to follow through, is open-mined and dependable and not easily influenced by negative influences of others. Mutable folks, Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius and Pisces are so indecisive they may constantly change plans or commitments.  Cardinal folks, Aries, Cancer, Libra, and Capricorn possess a desire and enthusiasm to make things happen, achieve, and accomplish a lot in a short amount of time. Negatively, they may start too many projects and not complete them all.

Having the majority of planets in the Eastern hemisphere would show a person who is overly independent. These people are so interested in having their own needs and desires met they may not even be aware that their partners desires are not being met by them. It is so important to be able to tell the person we love and are involved with how we feel about them and know they are genuinely concerned about us. When there are hemisphere imbalances between a two people, this may be a source of conflict.

Eastern hemisphere people rarely turn to others for help. There is a level of pride in their independence. It can be very difficult to achieve true emotional intimacy with a person who has an overwhelming number of planets in the East.

Now, if we return to the Ascendant/Descendant axis and look at all the planets above this axis, the horizon, these planets are public.  Planets below this axis are private. Planets above the horizon have a need to express and share their ideas, thoughts, and philosophies publicly; they are more visible.  Planets below the horizon are less inclined to want center stage and are "introverted" or more reserved requiring privacy while planets above the horizon are "extroverted" desiring expression out into the World.

A high level of emotional maturity can overcome and mitigate challenging natal energies. The ability to "confront" and express both positive and negative emotions in a health manner fosters intimacy and connectedness.  In fact, a lack of confrontation actually destroys relationships because problems that aren't discussed are denied and pushed under the surface, fester, then undermine the connection.  Knowing which hemisphere your partner’s planets are located illuminates characteristic relating behaviors and aids in personal growth.

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Thank you, and have a wonderful day!

Lorraine Valente

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