Wednesday, April 14, 2010

☆♥*♥☆ Relationship Needs~Self Oriented Versus Other Oriented ☆♥*♥☆

By Lorraine Valente
     The astrological chart is designed like a pizza, cut into 12 slices. If we cut the pie/chart in the center from left (East) to right (West) we would form the Ascendant/Descendant relationship axis. (this direction is the reverse of what we are taught about traditional direction)
     The East is symbolic of your personal needs and the West would be the needs of the relationship or partner. When we cut the chart from bottom, North, center (IC) to the top, South, center (MC) we form the 4th house/10th house axis of home versus work and private versus public needs.

     Divisions of the chart hemispheres as indicated above assists in determining whether you are more “relationship” oriented or more “self” oriented. Planets located in the Western portion of the chart are relationship and ”other” oriented. These signs are the signs of Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio and Sagittarius. Planets located in the Eastern hemisphere of the chart are more “Self” oriented. These signs are (Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces, Aries, Taurus and Gemini. It is ideal to have a balance of planets in both hemispheres as this indicates a healthy approach to relationships and the inherent ability to meet not only your own needs, but the needs of your partner.

     When the majority of planets reside in the Western hemisphere, this person might not have enough self confidence to take a stand in a relationship. Co-dependency is set up where the needs of the partner take precedence over the need to take care for the self when it may be inappropriate to care for the other at the expense of you. Having a majority of planets in the Western hemisphere, you may feel more insecure and lack confidence in relating, always considering the other first, again, even when it is detrimental to yourself to do so. This individual may become overly involved in the lives of others leaving no room left for them selves. This could also be the person that everyone asks favors of, is taken advantage of and who doesn’t know how to say “no” because of the need to feel needed. Blurred boundaries are possible with an overabundance of planets in the West.

     However, if those planets are mostly in the masculine planets of fire and air, this can produce extreme impatience when the personal needs are thwarted or not immediately gratified. This person could be demanding or selfish or unrealistic in their expectations of others.

     Having the majority of planets in the Eastern hemisphere would show a person who is overly independent. These people are so interested in having their own needs met they may be completely unaware of their partners needs or even have an interest in attempting to fill them. It is so important to be able to communicate love and appreciation to the person we care about and are involved with. When there are hemisphere imbalances between a two people, the imbalance will be a potential source of conflict yet the opportunity for a tremendous amount of growth.

     Eastern hemisphere people rarely turn to others for help. There is a level of pride in their independence. It can be very difficult to achieve true emotional intimacy with a person who has an overwhelming number of planets in the East. Knowing which hemisphere your partner’s planets are located will provide clues to relating and conflict resolution that is critical to the maintenance of a long term committed relationship.

     Another determining factor is knowing the sign on the cusp of your potential partner's the 7th house.  The planet that rules the sign of the 7th house (Descendant), it's palcement within the chart, and the aspects or connections it makes with other planets, demonstrates how that individual acts within a relationship.  This is a quick method for determining compatibility.  For instance, if your new boyfriend/girlfriend has an Aries Descendant, that sign is ruled by firey, passionate Mars.  Look to see what Mars is doing in the chart.  Is it in the emotionally intuitive, nurturing  sign of Cancer or in the need for freedom sign of Sagittarius?  Is Mars (anger, action, passion) squaring the Moon (Mother, emotions)?

     Knowing the date, time and place of birth provides a wonderful starting point to understanding your and another's relationship wants, needs, and desires.  Lorraine is available for Astrology consultations and Tarot readings 7 days via Phone, E-mail/Online/Skype or In-Person.

Lorraine Valente

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