☆♥*♥☆Pisces/Virgo Relationships☆♥*♥☆

by Lorraine Valente


The Pisces/Virgo ~Ascendant/Descendant
Relationship Axis (1st house/7th house)

Knowing your partners 7th house cusp (the relationship house) and the ruler of that house will indicate the type of partner you may attract or are attracted to and the method of relating within a relationship.

The Ascendant, or Rising sign, is the sign rising on the horizon at the time of birth. This is the face we show the world, the “mask” behind which the Sun hides. This is the outer personality, temperament and disposition as well as how the early early home life was experienced and the environment  we grew up in. It is the way others see us and also indicates the physical appearance. The ruler of the Ascendant and the aspects (connections to other planets in your birth chart) further delineate and define physical appearance.

The Descendant, or 7th house cusp, its ruler and the aspects it makes in your birth chart, is symbolic of the type of partner you are attracted to. The 7th house is the house of all partnerships including marriage and legal contracts yet also considered the house of open enemies or the Defendant in a law suit.

Whatever we do not own in ourselves we tend to attract the negative qualities or shadow through the 7th house. In relationships, Pisces♓ has Neptune♆ as the modern ruler and with benefic Jupiter♃ as the ancient ruler. If you have a Pisces Ascendant, you appear mercurial and may have a naïve disposition. You may be more spiritual than most. Because you are a mutable sign, although you are flexible indecisiveness if possible. Physical appearance is soft and gentle. Artistic expression is a must and you have an active fantasy life. Because you're  a mutable sign, there are moments of ambivalence, indecisiveness and ever changing your mind. Worry, self deception and denial is possible. Pisces rising folks tend to have sensual lips and very large, soft eyes.With Mercury☿ ruled Virgo♍ on the Descendant you seek a methodical, practical, articulate partner. Mutual sharing and communication within any partnership is absolutely critical to you. You desire intelligence and refinement in a partner. Attraction to a partner with those qualities who is organized and analytical as well as being health conscious is possible.

☆♥*♥☆ Sagittarius/Gemini Axis ☆♥*♥☆

by Lorraine Valente

The Sagittarius/Gemini Ascendant/Descendant Relationship Axis (1st house/7th house)

Knowing your partners 7th house cusp (the relationship house) and the ruling planet of that house, provides insight about the type of partner you're attracted to (or attract into your life), and the method of relating within that relationship.

The Ascendant or Rising sign is the sign rising on the horizon at the time of birth. This is the face shown to the world, our “mask” for which the Sun hides, and how others see us. This is our outer personality, temperament and disposition as well as how the early home environment was experienced. It also hints of the physical appearance. The ruler of the Ascendant and the aspects (connections to other planets in your birth chart) further delineate and define your physical appearance.

Look towards the Descendant, or 7th house cusp, its ruler and its aspects. The 7th house is the house of all partnerships including marriage, legal contracts, and the house of open enemies or the Defendant in a law suit.

In relationships, Sagittarius has planetary rulership with expansive Jupiter. Whatever Jupiter touches, expands. If you have a Sagittarius Ascendant, you are jovial, friendly, philosophical, and an independent thinker and tend to attract lively, youthful partners with a flair for words.

With Mercury ruled Gemini on the descendant you seek an affable, fun-loving, youthful and witty partner. Attraction to a partner with those qualities who is younger, intelligent, sociable, fickle, a natural born communicator is likely. It is quite possible to attract a second partner or marriage later in life with this placement. In both male and female charts, the tendency to attract a teacher or mentor type is possible as well as meeting another who appears androgynous in some way.

One of the first things to look at when provided birth data of a potential partner, is their Mercury placement, since Mercury rules your descendant. If Mercury is favorably aspected in your partners chart, those communicative benefits are brought into your relationship with him or her. Your own Mercury placement and the aspects it makes to other planets demonstrates the way you approach communicating relationship needs as well.

A Sagittarius Ascendant may attract a partner with Mercury prominent in their chart. Mercury would form favorable aspects to the Sun, Moon, Mars or Venus, or elevated in conjunction to the MC (10th house), IC (4th house), conjunct or ruling their Ascendant (Gemini/Virgo) or Descendant. The Sun sign in Gemini or Virgo are other possibilities.

Knowing the date, time and place of birth is important in making the determination for the Rising sign. This cusp sets up all other house cusps that divide chart houses and areas of life.

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☆♥*♥☆Predicting Marital Satisfaction☆♥*♥☆

by Lorraine Valente

Infidelity is on the rise and is, according to statistics, becoming more common among people under age 30. Many experts believe this increase in cheating is due to greater opportunity (time spent away from a partner) and young people developing the habit of having multiple sexual partners before they marry (Wall Street Journal). Between 1991 and 2006, the numbers of unfaithful wives under 30 increased by 20% and husbands by a whopping 45%. These numbers come from a study conducted by David Atkins of the University of Washington Center for the Study of Health and Risk Behaviors.

As astrologers, we're aware that between the ages of 29-30 (In some instances 28), we experience the Saturn return.  It takes approximately 29 plus years for transiting Saturn to move 360 degrees around the chart to form a conjunction with natal Saturn. In my experience, with today's values and transitory career options, individuals who marry before the Saturn return tend to choose a partner based upon a family of origin imprints and expectations.  There is less likelihood of marrying an individual mom or dad opposes, for whatever reason.  It could be that your selection doesn't meet their religious, socioeconomic status, age or career aspirations. When a person marries or chooses a partner after the Saturn return, they are more likely to choose a partner who meets their own image of who's right for them paying less attention to parental value imprints, that may or may not work for them.  After the Saturn return, individuals, males and females, better know what they want, what makes them happy, have completed some or all of their formal education, and have secured employment. In speaking with individuals who tied the knot before the Saturn return and are still together after it, concur 90% of the time.

The above statistics aren't surprising when discussing the under 30 population. Since younger generations are living at home and staying in school longer, they're also taking time to experiment with partners before settling down, and it makes sense to do so.  We learn how to be intimate with others, initially, through parental mirroring, then through trial and error experimentation.  When an individual knows what soothes their soul, makes them happy, they are better able to seek and recognize those desired qualities during partner selection, ideally, after the Saturn return.

Jeffry H. Larson, professor and chairman of the Family and Marriage Therapy Program at Brigham Young University, has developed what he calls "The Marriage Triangle," which highlights individual and couple traits and the family background and context that can help or hinder a current or future relationship. 

First, are the unhealthy factors that predict marital dissatisfaction. These are the three sides of the triangle:

Individual traits


1. High neurotic traits.
2. Anxiety.
3. Depression.
4. Impulsiveness.
5. Self-consciousness.
6. Vulnerability to stress.
7. Anger/hostility.
8. Dysfunctional beliefs. (If you enter marriage convinced that you live on different planets, or that you'll never understand each other, he says, you probably won't.)


Couple traits


1. Dissimilarity.
2. Short acquaintanceship.
3. Premarital sex (especially a lot of experience with many different partners).
4. Premarital pregnancy.
5. Cohabitation.
6. Poor communication and conflict-resolution skills.

Context



1. Younger age.

2. Unhealthy family-of-origin experiences.

3. Parental divorce or chronic marital conflict.
4. Parental or friends' disapproval.
5. Pressure to marry.
6. Little education or career preparation.

He's also developed a list of healthy characteristics, and the leading factors that predict marital satisfaction:


Individual traits


1. High self-esteem.
2. Flexibility.
3. Assertiveness.
4. Sociability.

Couple traits

1. Similarity.
2. Long acquaintanceship.
3. Good communication skills.
4. Good conflict resolution skills/style.


Context

1. Older age.
2. Healthy family-of-origin experiences.
3. Happy parental marriage.
4. Parental and friends' approval.
5. Significant education and career preparation.

He further states that if he had to choose one trait that would help the most in building a relationship it would be flexibility. That one thing can take care of a lot of potential problems. When two people come together wanting peace and to give to the other, it's a win-win situation.  When the mutual goal of a relationship is partnership, harmony and conciliation, happiness is inevitable.  The choice is yours.

If you want to learn more about this topic and others, schedule a phone, Skype, or e-mail consultation at Fuchsiastars@aol.comThank you, and have a wonderful day!

Lorraine Valente
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http://www.karmicastrology.info/
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Reference

Smart Marriages Archive, reproduced in the [Electronic version] of Divorce Statistics Collection.

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☆♥*♥☆Female Sexuality & Relationships☆♥*♥☆

by Lorraine Valente

What better timing then to discuss sexuality with the planets of love attraction and sexual desires both in the sign of Scorpio! As a currently single female who has studied sexuality and the female condition, it must be noted that there is "still" a double standard when discussing and expressing sexual desire. "Some" women are remiss, fearful or conditioned to limit their response, learned in childhood and reinforced by society. We're supposed to be "good" girls and not like sex too much, only when our partners want us, so then a man will marry us. A woman who enjoys sex, is in touch with her sexuality and is able to express those desires, is considered aggressive, too intense, oversexed or a whore. Let's remember that many men still suffer from the Madonna/Whore Complex, meaning: Men are loathe to marry the sexually experienced woman. It's too much of an ego blow, even though they claim to desire a woman who enjoys sex yet moan all throughout their relationships/marriage about not "getting" enough. Instead, a married man (or a single one) takes a woman "on the side" to experiment with and reveals his true sexual nature with that individual.

Women may be more secretive about their desires as a result of societal conditioning. This is perpetuated, then reinforced, during adolescence, the dating process, and in marriage further reinforced by the "male perspective" and male response. However, many women of all ages love sex (with an encouraging partner). Men tend to condition (read control) the female response to it by their own expectations of who a "good" woman is (it's no wonder women eventually repress their desires or look elsewhere). It should also be noted that women are, instead, relating to younger, open-minded, and sexually accepting males.

This may be a contributing factor in recent statistics confirming that more than 51 % of all married women have cheated on their husbands at least once. The1st time in history, statistics lean towards the female, and frankly, this doesn't surprise me. The statistics are probably higher because women are conditioned towards "silencing" their desires as well as discussing it openly fearing a label and ostracism. Yet this is changing, albeit slowly. Younger generations of females and males are sexually experimental, choosing to maintain "open" relationships. No longer requiring the sole financial support of men, women now choose partners who satisfy them sexually and emotionally. Those partners may be equal to or several years younger, rather than choose the stereotypical, financially secure, older man. Men are finally experiencing a glimpse of what is feels like when a woman chooses to act on her desires, the same way "privileged" men have been behaving for generations; they've taught women well.

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